An Emotional Affair: How To Move On

Discovering that your partner has had an emotional affair can be devastating.  How do I know?  Because I've been there.  You agonize over where you went wrong; analyze in minute detail everything that happened in the preceding weeks or months and wonder just where the hell you go from here.

Of course one of the biggest questions you ask yourself is - why?  What was missing in your relationship to drive your partner into the arms of someone else.  Unfortunately there is very often no clear reason.  Perhaps it happened because your partner began to feel dissatisfied in the relationship, harboring resentments that they chose not to talk about.  You may have noticed the signs of discontent or neglect but, like me, chose to bury your head in the sand and hope it would all go away.

If you look back at your relationship candidly (oh the value of hindsight!) were there times when you could have made your partner feel more special or just been more communicative?  If, like us, neither of you were working at it, the chances are that your emotional connection with each other suffered badly.

But whatever the reason, the simple fact of the matter is that your relationship has gone through a breakdown in understanding and intimacy and it's these areas you really need to concentrate on.  If your partner has admitted to having an emotional affair, then no matter how hurt and bewildered you feel at the moment, believe me, this can be the first step to restoring the bond between you.

That said, if you really want your relationship to survive, then you will need to learn to communicate intimately with each other again.  This won't be easy, particularly if you've both got out of the habit of being open and honest with each other, but it really is vital that you persist, even if your partner begrudges your efforts at first.  There is no excuse for a husband or wife to cheat, either emotionally, sexually or both, but if your partner went outside of your relationship to get that 'special' feeling, then perhaps that's something that you need to provide.

So, just how do you move on from your partner's emotional affair and learn to communicate with each other intimately again?

I know how difficult it can be when you really don't know where to start, but you can get immediate help by downloading the 7 part 'Survive an Affair' course from Marriage Sherpa.com.

The course includes communication techniques aimed at rebuilding your emotional connection and will help you both create a new foundation of trust after the affair.

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